A couple of weeks ago I ran into a girlfriend whose only been happily married since forever and she tells me that her libido is starting to slack off. This from a woman who has demanded it almost daily since our college hay-days, and yes – she was married during our college hay-days. She admits that she has since gained a few pounds and may be slacking off on intimacy due to her new size but then she also admitted to acting out fits of high sexuality from time to time. Unfortunately for her, her spouse was rarely at home during those highs, so she effectively handles those moments in a mono fashion.
Just knowing that she still has mono-fixing moments is already a good sign. That means her libido isn’t dead, though it may be idle, at rest, falling asleep, or something like that. I’m no sex doctor, though I must admit I am fond of the practice of making babies. So when she asked me for advice, surely I suggested the usual spice-it-up tricks: candles, R&B, lingerie, role play, etc., — all of which she says she’s already tried and still incorporates.
Defeat is not something that I’m into, so I took on the task of researching “where does a woman go from here?” Let’s call my girlfriend Alicia. There’s something else you don’t know about Alicia, a year ago she had a hysterectomy. A hysterectomy is a surgical procedure where doctors remove a womans uterus and sometimes even her ovaries (which are needed to direct hormone traffic) – for medical reasons like endometriosis and the likes. Alicia was suffering really bad cramps and extended cycles before she ultimately decided to have the procedure done. Alicia already has 3 kids so, she wasn’t planning to procreate again. Lucky for her, she was able to keep her ovaries therefore her hormones should continue to be normal. Kudos to medical science on that one! However, the doctor proudly admitted to her that during the surgical procedure he hemmed the cuff of her vagina nicely and that her husband would enjoy it. She didn’t know at the time that her doctor was referencing to the snugness of her va-jay-jay. It’s been a year post her procedure and she told me that every interlude almost feel’s like the first time (to which she doesn’t mind), her husband, however enjoys the new space very much.
Still a desire for copulating is the matter at hand, so I focused my research on herbal supplements. The following information that I found was so awesome ladies, that I couldn’t resist sharing it with you in hopes that you’ll Make It Sexier too:
Chinese angelica (Angelica sinensis). The Chinese call this herb dang-quai and claim that it does for women what ginseng does for men. You can add three to six teaspoons to a pint of boiling water and drink up to three cups of this a day. It is not suggested that you take this if you are pregnant.
Ginseng (Panax). Ginseng can be used by both men and women and has proven to be one of the top herbs as a sexual stimulant.
Quebracho (Aspidosperma quebracho-blanco). This herb contains yohimbine which is the active compound in the herb yohimbe. In women, the biochemicals in these herbs help the clitoris to become engorged causing sexual arousal. They should not be used if you have high blood pressure. Do not continue to use this herb if you have side effects such as dizziness.
Yohimbe (Pausinystalia yohimbe). This herb has been used by men to improve their erections and the FDA has actually approved pharmaceuticals containing yohimbe. It does have some possible side effects such as elevating blood pressure. If this is a problem for you then you may want to take the plant compound yohimbine instead. Atlanta sex therapist Roger Libby, Ph.D. suggests that yohimbe is also a good stimulant for women by increasing blood flow to the clitoris as it does to the penis in men.
Anise (Pimpinella anisum). Anise contains anethole which is a compound similar to estrogen. In older times people used it for increasing their milk secretion while breast feeding, promoting the menstrual cycle, facilitating childbirth and for a woman’s sex drive. Plant estrogens or phytoestrogens such as these enhance a person’s lust for life and could enhance sexual lust as well.
Chocolate (Theobroma cacao). Now you can have your chocolate and eat it too. Chocolate boosts the body’s levels of serotonin and endorphins which help relieve pain and boost your mood. Some people even believe that chocolate will mimic the effects of marijuana in the brain.Next time you want a romantic evening try chocolate instead of strawberries, or chocolate covered strawberries for a special treat.
Cola (Cola nitida). Cola contains the stimulants theobromine, kolanin and caffeine. Cola has been used in Jamaica as an aphrodisiac for many years. Essential oils such as jasmine, rose, or clary can be used as massage oils when mixed with vegetable oil. It’s a well-known fact that scents and massage are both sexually stimulating and the two together would only enhance each other.
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I suggested to Alicia to let all other stresses subside and to focus more on her hips, rotation and stride.
To always focus on beauty – we then hit the spa; we emerged as la beauties, two cuties – la la.
She promised to hit the list, forego subliminal pride and to grab ahold of what she wants, take it in and Just Ride.
I prefer a smooth ride, no stresses, no medical woes. If herbs will do the trick then to the herb shop I will go.
Call me a flower child if you want to – I insist that I am a lady, who loves to have fun and enjoys the practice of making babies.
Fall is upon us and the weather yielding me “in the mood,” I’m Qui Keeping it real with thee while serving up knowledge & sensual food.